THE DAY I FOUGHT A SHARK

Shark attacks happen often. But fear and anxiety take more lives.

The good news is there’s a way for us to take down and beat these lethal animals.

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1. Don’t Talk about It!

Now this may sound like the exact opposite of what you should do, but just hear me out. What you talk about, you magnify. And I’m not just referring to audible speech. Our inner dialogue can create the scariest of phantoms. This is why we must be careful with our thoughts—any thought (whether positive or negative) should be constructive, not destructive. Your thoughts should always be constructive and never destructive. That wasn’t a typo.

The number one key to success against fear and anxiety is controlling your inner dialogue.

It’s also important to carefully choose who you share your fears with. As stated in the video, I highly recommend only talking to one qualified person about the problem. If you talk to too many people, the fear or concern will grow bigger, stealing more and more of your time and energy. I’ve made this mistake many times, and it has proven to be fear’s way of keeping me focused on the problem and not a solution.

Now is it always wrong to tell multiple people? Absolutely not. But be careful. You don’t want those conversations to magnify the fear. Pick people who 1.) are removed from the situation and can offer an objective opinion 2.) are a champion in this particular area—don’t just go to people who are dealing with the same fear or issue.

 

2. Find Confidence

Confidence is very important when facing your fears, so you’ll need to find some. But it can be hard to find confidence when you’re feeling stressed and overwhelmed, so I want to give you my secret to finding confidence . . .

. . . trust in a CONSTANT.

So what’s a constant? Family? Friends? Job? Money? Yourself? Nope. None of those are constant. You, your family, and your friends are human and can mess up. Money can be lost faster than its earned. In fact, everything in life is subject to change—except for God, and we’ve been given His unchanging Word.

When confronted by the sharks, I quickly thought of a verse that reshaped my dilemma:
“God gave man dominion over all the fish of the sea, birds of the air, and every living creature.” —Genesis 1:26 ARV (Alec Revised Version)

Well a shark is a fish, so I knew I had dominion over it. I rejected the fear by putting it in its place. You might be thinking, It’s not that simple . . . Well, actually, it is that simple. I think we overcomplicate these things. Either we’re going to live in faith or fear, and faith comes from confidence in God’s goodness and constancy.

If you don’t know a verse for your situation, that’s fine. You get to find one. And when you look for your verse, you’ll end up finding much more than you originally expected.

 

3. Mind Your Surroundings

In the midst of fear, we can still find things to be thankful for—things that will ground us and put our struggle into perspective. Again, you may be thinking, Alec you don’t understand my situation. I can’t find anything to be thankful for!

It’s true I don’t know your pain or struggle. And I can’t imagine how difficult your battle has been. However, the truth is there is always something to be thankful for. But you’ll only find what you’re looking for. Again, you will only find what you’re looking for.

What did I have to be thankful for when I was surrounded by sharks? Oddly enough, a lot. I’ve never been so thankful for jellyfish in my life. Josh and I started throwing them at each other as a way to distract ourselves. The waves around us were gorgeous, and I was having quality time with one of my great friends. With sharks swimming beneath us, Josh and I had amazing conversations that I still remember today.

We can always learn things from stressful or fearful times, and that’s reason enough to be thankful for them. God doesn’t send trials our way because He likes watching us struggle. He uses trials and fears to develop strength and courage in us. But we won’t grow in the struggle if we don’t mind our surroundings

 

Finishing Thoughts

The very fact that you are on this site means you want more out of this adventure called life. You are an extraordinary person, which means you’ll meet some tough sharks. Don’t be afraid. Don’t stress. Get the right voices involved, find your constant, mind your surroundings, and don’t back down from the sharks.

Fight on!

 

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21 Comments

  1. From someone that used to deal with a ton of fear and anxiety herself and now tries to help others overcome their specific fears around food/disordered relationships with “health living” all together – I love this. All of these points are so true – because I find people following accounts on IG, joining FB groups and talking to tons of people – all in hopes to overcome their fear/anxiety about it… yet I’ve seen the same thing be true you wrote here – not focusing on it/talking about it too much, changing your thoughts and words you speak over yourself, and having a constant to fall on, being the key. Love what you guys are doing here!

    – Sarah Grace

  2. Farrah Beth D Ghosn

    One of the biggest things I’ve had to surrender to God was fear. Thank you so much for this post because not only did it remind that I have the most success when I focus on the “constant” but that real trust in Jesus is not avoiding a situation that may be scary to approach, and know that it may be the very situation that brings the most glory to God cause it was not in my OWN strength that I got through it.

  3. Good stuff!
    People don’t get that fear in a believers live is unacceptable. Just because it’s “normal” and everyone has it doesn’t make it ok.
    Fear is an evil spirit (2Tim1:7) that binds people from fulfilling their calling and God commands us not to fear, it’s not even an option.
    So much more fun to live free from fear!
    I recommend shark cage diving 😉

  4. Awesome word! Totally gripped by this story and loving the Sons and Daughters messages. Thanks guys!

  5. Camille Troc

    So good ! I was once in the same situation back in South Africa and I wish I could have reacted like Alec…! I rushed back to the beach lol. But this reminds me of my favorite verse when God says to Joshua “I command you to be strong and courageous”. Thanks for encouragement guys,
    Blessings from Israel!

  6. Yes!! True!! The greatest weapon God gave us so we can fight any circumstance in life is HIS Word which is alive and powerful! “For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.”
    ‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭4:12‬ ‭ AND the Holy Spirit which is alive in us and through us!
    Amen to what you said !!

  7. Just keep reading! I see what you did there! Lol. Anyways, I appreciate how you guys deliver profound wisdom in such a practical and funny way.

  8. I loved this video!! It’s such an important topic because the truth is there is a lot of anxiety in our world and fears. I wonder if we could get more deeper in the “how” to take dominion over animals and living things. I believe we have authority and dominion over of living creatures and the weather such as tornados or any kind of storm. I feel like we don’t talk in detail on how to say it. What do you say to take dominion? How do you bind something? Churches don’t talk about this and it’s such a powerful weapon that God has given His church but we don’t use it because it isn’t taught. But this initial conversation on fear was great!

  9. Thank you for shareing !

  10. Sarah Haines

    So much truth. Thanks for sharing! Fear and anxiety are so irrational. The word also says, what your fear will come upon you (Not certain of the reference; I think Jeremiah). We give so much power to silly fears beyond our control all while we have full access to the One who is in control. That said, I more than likely would have opted to get out of the water! Lol

    • Arden Bevere

      Haha most people would get out of the water! Im with you there. Fear and anxiety are such a big topic so we will continue to try to give any insight that we can to this.

  11. Such good advice. It may feel like our feet are floating around with confusion in the midst of the fear were facing, but when we realize that our feet should be grounded in God, we will come to fully understand and believe that HE is unstoppable, and has full control of every situation. God will always strengthen us where He knows we need it, and when we don’t give into the temptation of having fear, we will have dominion over anything the enemy tries to throw our way. Just like in the scripture you gave Alec. That’s one of my favorites. Great job on this post, looking forward to many more pieces of advice. 🙂

  12. Beka Johnson

    👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Thank you

  13. Hey I love this! thank you all so much!!!

  14. and we can’t find a greater person than the HOLY SPIRIT!!!

  15. There’s definitely wisdom in only talking to one person! Often times the flood of different advice you’ll get from talking to multiple people will only add to the confusion and frustration of your situation. Thank you so much for this post!

  16. I love the point about only talking to one person. I think it’s really common for us to go around talking to so many people about our anxiety in the name of “processing our emotions” or “venting.” But really we are just giving our fears too much attention. Controlling our thoughts is a powerful thing! Nice work guys!

    • Arden Bevere

      So true! Most times the more you talk about something the bigger it becomes so you always want to be careful about talking to too many people.

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