I’ve already settled in my heart that this message just might be the least watched message in the group. I’m fine with that; after all, who has time to wait or be patient? These are not necessarily the characteristics we pay the most attention to these days.

Reporter Linton Weeks put it this way:

In the past few decades we have become the Impatient Nation. We want quick answers to complex problems—the economy, diseases, personal relations.

We: Speed date. Eat fast food. Use the self-checkout lines in grocery stores. Try the “one weekend” diet. Pay extra for overnight shipping. Honk when the light turns green. Thrive or dive on quarterly earnings reports. Speak in half sentences. Start things but don’t fin…

We twitter stories in 280 characters or less, yet some tweets are too long. We cut corners, take shortcuts. We txt.

The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines patience as “the ability to remain calm and not become annoyed when waiting for a long time or when dealing with problems or difficult people.” We are all given opportunities to wait for a long time or to deal with problems. Many of us encounter this need for patience, perhaps at times with profound pain or frustration, in the waiting season before marriage.

Within a time of waiting, you will face off with the cheap or easy way out. At some point, most of us give into these opportunities—only to find ourselves in the same place somewhere down the road, again given the opportunity to acquire patience. This is no coincidence.

If you still don’t think this is on purpose, a lesson that must be learned—that patience is a characteristic that must be acquired for us to live vibrant, faith-filled lives—let’s get a glimpse of what Scripture says about it.

But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.… (Galatians 5:22-23 NLT, emphasis added)

Hopefully the Holy Spirit is operating in all of our lives. If He is, one of the attributes that should be active in us is patience. The most likely way that patience is produced is through our having to wait and hope for something past the point we think is reasonable.

Along with wanting to display the fruit of the Spirit, we all desire love—to be love, show love, have love. Here again we find the need for waiting, for love is patient (see 1 Corinthians 13:3 NIV).

Love is many things, but one of its primary attributes is patience. There’s no way around that. If you forfeit learning how to wait and be patient outside of marriage, you will certainly face off with it within the covenant of marriage. And even for those who do a marvelous job waiting outside of marriage, I’m sure a new level of understanding waits within it (I’ll let you know if/when I find out).

My hope is that this message will encourage you to persevere through your waiting season. Instead of viewing it as torture or punishment, view it as opportunity and advancement. And I pray that you will find yourself in community with others who encourage you along the way. I’ll be the first to tell you, “Nothing is wrong. This is purposeful.”

This is our first post in a new series called “Waiting Well”. This is definitely not a one and done subject! Our goal with this series is for you to experience fresh revelation from God and renewed strength in your season of waiting. So be sure to tune in and subscribe! You won’t want to miss anything as we unpack this principle of waiting well.

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  1. Bruna Souza

    Loveeeee it !!!!
    I´m her like waiting and see everybody got married and stuffs !!!
    I´m so agreed with all the things !

  2. This was wonderful…Exactly where the Lord has me and this is such an encouragement/confirmation. Thank you for sharing reality of what it means to wait.

  3. THANK YOU! I love that you said, “Nothing is wrong”. That eases the pressure and questions I’ve struggled with. That’s so encouraging to my season 🙂

  4. Mark Newman

    I’d also love to hear more about what Hannah said about not wanting to waste time on someone who she’s not willing to covenant her life with. I feel like that’s true of me, but don’t know really know what that looks like, cuz I’m already terrified of dating. And that was good wisdom I could tell, and want to know more.

    • Arden Bevere

      Hey Mark, glad you enjoyed it! We are definitely not done coving this topic and will have much more down the road

  5. Mark Newman

    I really liked that, esp the part about waiting not just when you’re single, but in every season and area of life. Father has us wait for His promises, and that’s such a good reminder!! Well done!!

  6. Thank you for sharing this. This is a area I have been struggling with and you brought a lot of wisdom to the topic. I am walking away really encouraged and challenged to wait well.

  7. Hannah- your transparency about this topic has blessed so many, myself included! Your life is a testament to the goodness of God. He’s revealing more parts of His character to me each year- I’m learning that His intentions towards me are always good, which have taken years for me to believe in my heart. Julianna has been a tremendous blessing with her wisdom also. God bless you both! Hugs

  8. I love this new series Hannah! I know I’m still having to do a re-evaluation every once in awhile to make sure I’m waiting well and using this season to focus on my own growth 🙂

  9. This is my favorite sons and daughters message. Thank you for sharing and encouraging us.

  10. Thank you so much for sharing and encouraging us. We do need to be reminded that God is faithful. Hanna as someone that has waited for a very long time I thank you for bringing it back to who HE is and to what HE says in his word.

  11. He is so timely! I turned 30 in August and this message was another confirmation, another reminder that His timing is perfect. I’m so very grateful for the many years in my 20’s where He was drawing me to Himself and realizing he kept me from a lot of pain – hindsight is 20/20! Obviously there are those days where I wish my life looked more “normal” than it does, but then I am reminded that He has taken me on this journey for a reason. It’s easy to sort-of get in a rut in life so thank you for the reminder to “do” and “be!” Excited for the next video! THANK YOU!!!

  12. I needed this. All of the emotions Hannah eloquently expressed is so raw and genuine to my own experience. I just turned 30, and with that have been grieving where I expected my life to be by now. I love what I have, but it’s been hard accepting that it’s not where I’d planned to be at by now. Having this reminder that God wants to hear these emotions was exactly what I needed. He’s not offended by our grief, or frustrations. Thank you!

  13. Wow! My heart has been heavy with this very topic for a while now and I really needed to hear this message. Thank you so much for sharing and being so open and real. As a 26 year old with a history of dating no one ever and having no prospects in sight, this has encouraged me greatly.

  14. i love this so much!!! this is great because patience is sooo vital and how can we be able to listen and know what He is saying if we cannot simply “be still” (this was just part of what i got from it lol). You guys have no idea how much this video meant to me! I love listening and learning from you guys and this session was amazing (praise hands)!! Just the thought of knowing that God has it under control and that i am NOT Holy Spirit legit gives such a peace!!!

    love you guys!! 🙂

  15. Great job ladies! I could relate to this in so many ways…I’m 23 now but I started praying when I was way younger about the kind of guy I wanted to marry one day. Over the years I learned that it was easy for me to pray about the guy I wanted to marry…but I struggled with feeling like I deserved the kind of guy I was praying for. I had to go to Gods word and learn what He says and how He feels about me to realize that God really loves me and only has good plans for my life and wants what is best for me. I think it’s very important for us to become the kind of people we are praying for and also to realize how much God loves us and wants the best for us 🙂

  16. Rebecca Rust

    This was SO good! Thank you gorgeous girls! 😍 So grateful for your lives, your words, and your heart for others. Looking forward to hearing more from this series 💃 xo

  17. Hannah!! Come on girl! This is good! Can I be friends with youuuuu?! ❤️❤️

  18. Thank You for This! Timely Word I needed..

  19. Omg just exactly what i needed! I been in a waiting/wilderness for over a year now one that i can really recognize because my walk with God is a lot deeper compared to my earlier life! As i wait for the husband and House career etc. All what you shared in the video was beyond encouraging and helpful THANK YOU AND GOD BLESS! ♥️

  20. LOVED YOUR MESSAGE!! I talk to Jesus in my car too and at times cry my eyes out. I love my time in the car just talking with Jesus. It’s the best!! I love the idea of us becoming our list. That was a revelation! Thank you!

  21. I’ve found all of those things to be so true in my own journey. Hannah, thank you for being so transparent in sharing yours with us!

  22. Oh my goodness… I just had a moment where I felt the NOW word sink deep into my soul through this video… Thank you Hannah, and Julianna, that is one message that I know God intended for me to hear and receive and be encouraged by x

  23. Needed that so much today… there are moments that we live in our lots of “waiting” paths that you definitely want to quit for the pain, for the sacrifice and many other things, but you shown me again that is worth to persevere in Christ according to his timing…
    Thank you so much!

  24. Waiting as a skill set SO good. Thank you!!!

  25. Literally broke down bawling about the very things you talked about on my drive home one night earlier this week! THANK YOU for posting this! Easily one of the most powerful and timely messages I have EVER heard! Blessings to you all!

  26. Loved it! And it defiantly resonated with me when Hannah explained, she wasn’t “not giving anyone a chance” but she was seeing how it would end and how she’d always remember the plan God had set before her to fulfill, we can become who we want to meet, and be the woman of God now, before we’re married!

  27. Wow! Thats so powerful!