*Comment if you can find Asher in the video…

It’s the New Year, which means the gym’s going to get a lot busier.

Doesn’t it seem like everyone has some form of fitness goal? I love that people want to get healthier, but I also hate how crowded my gym gets.

The good news is by the middle of February, most of these fitness enthusiasts will be back at home, playing video games and eating lots of cake. Okay, maybe that’s a bit extreme, but you get the idea.

All joking aside, I want to share a few thoughts on how to create meaningful goals, so you don’t end up back on the sofa with a mouthful of cake.

Looking back to this time last year, I can remember making a decision that completely changed my 2017: I wrote down my goals.

Fun fact: You are 42% more likely to accomplish a goal if you write it down.

Before 2017, I would set goals, but not write them down. Of course, I’d pray and ask God to help me reach my goals, but that was about all the effort I put into making them happen. I was lazy and just expected God to give me what I wanted since I had prayed that one time.

But toward the end of 2016, God showed me the power of a thought—after all, every breakthrough is just one thought or idea away. Think about that . . . the next new business, cure for a disease, new ministry, etc., is just one thought away.

So, I decided it was time to take action. I reached out to Addison because he seemed to know a thing or two about this stuff. He walked me through a process of extracting and articulating my goals. I then found two big whiteboards and wrote out five goals I wanted to accomplish in 2017. Goals like: work myself into a leadership position, put on ten pounds of muscle, and build a youth/young adult ministry at Messenger.

Below each of these goals, I included a list of recurring, practical actions that would move me closer to hitting my goals. What I’ve realized is that too many people have the vision, the “big picture” idea, but they never do the practical things to accomplish it. After finishing my lists, I wrote out at the top of my boards, “God, give me an idea.”

December 30, 2016 came around and I was feeling fresh, full of vision and excited to jump into 2017. I felt like I could fly, so I took off for the gym to play basketball. But things didn’t go too well . . . No, I didn’t lose. Of course I came away with the W. But I did land on someone’s foot and broke my ankle.

So I started 2017 with a cast on my foot. I also found myself spending way too much time visiting concerned medical personnel and missing invaluable time in the gym. I mean, it’s hard to do squats when you can barely walk.

I was getting discouraged. Pretty much all I could think about was how unrealistic and unattainable my goals now seemed. And while I could justify every reason to stay discouraged, I was determined to reach my goals. I had clear goals written out that I knew were from God, and I wasn’t going to let anything stop me. Instead of sitting around in pain and unproductivity, I took that time to grow and better myself. I read book after book, watched numerous sermons and leadership videos, and went to the gym as much as I could—even though I could only work out my upper body.

As you pursue your goals, there are going to be unexpected things thrown your way. But this is when you get to develop the grit and tenacity to push through and reach your goals.

You may be thinking, so how do I actually go about setting meaningful goals? Here’s a simple acronym that will help:

S: Specific. You need to know what your goal is and whether you succeed in hitting it. Ambiguous goals like “get healthy” won’t get you anywhere. What actions are you going to take to get healthy?

M: Measureable. You can’t manage what you can’t measure. Create a way to track your progress toward your goals.

A: Attainable. Your goals should stretch you, but they need to be attainable. I want to make a trillion dollars by selling ice cream to snowmen is not an attainable goal.

R: Realistic. Turn your big goals into small, realistic actions. Things that will create momentum for you. Nothing great is ever accomplished by a single, grandiose action. Commit to the small steps. “Little by little,” writes Tolkien, “one travels far.”

T: Time. Every goal should be given a timeframe. Time constraints move us to action and help us defeat the procrastination monster.

By the end of 2017, I had accomplished three of my five big goals (I didn’t get married or have kids).

All because of the intentional steps I took in the beginning of the year.

If you follow these steps, you’ll actually reach your goals instead of getting smacked in the face by them. Happy New Year!




  1. Thank you so much for this article Addison and Arden… Was looking at this article and wondering if there is any tool that you used to track the progress when measuring.. please do share if there is anything.
    Thank you so much for all you do through Son and Daughters!!
    Keep living for His glory!

  2. Though I’m a bit late in watching this post. I loved the Star Wars and Tolkien references, I’m so glad I’m not the only Jesus loving nerd. God frequently uses lines of truth in those stories to confirm His own narrative with my walk, and life.

    Thank you so much for the tips on breaking down ones goals into smaller steps, it’s so easy to get overwhelmed with big ideas and not know where to start.

    It’s wonderful to see the community between the people at sons and daughters. What a testimony of walking with one another in your unique gifts. I hope to see some posts about gifts, and working together in unity.

  3. Lizzie.Caron

    Good stuff!
    Something that has helped me in the last year is to do basically the process y’all did, but to then break it down in to quarterly goals and then put that sheet on my wall as well! Also for the things I knew I would struggle with more like going to the gym, I had little boxed to check each time I did. For the people who need to see even just minor progress and struggle to appreciate the journey the check boxes can help prevent discouragement. However, the internal motivation has to be present or it won’t happen!
    Good stuff, and I hope the first quarter of your year is wrapping up nicely!

  4. What a cute cameo by Asher. Love the content coming out every week. Appreciate the relevant topics and wisdom from ya’ll. Is there a way to give financially to this ministry?

    • Arden Bevere

      Hey Summer! Best way to give to Sons and Daughters would be to call Messenger International and tell our partners team that you would like to give to S&D. Here is the number: 719.487.3000

      God Bless and thank you for your generosity!

  5. Asher 😂😂 thanks for more great content, guys. This is incredibly helpful!

  6. Thank you so much for sharing the path to set good goals! How failure is part of success, and how to set small actions to move forward with big dreams! Awesome!!! 👏🏻👏🏻

  7. Karen Costa

    Thank you, guys! I started my year with a list, but every goals seem to me so big. After this post, I will review my goals and turns them in small and realistic actions.

  8. Awesome stuff guys thank you !

  9. Asher! lol Oh man! This is stuff is sooo good though! Dang! Thanks dudes!

  10. This post was soo timely for me as I’be ranged into 2018 with flu & fever. I was to start a new job on Jan. 3rd and couldn’t. I felt beyond discouraged but not anymore. Thank you, guys! And I did see Asher of course 😜

  11. P. S. An idea for the future sometime when Jesus says “YES!” is …
    How to LIVE WITH God in every moment of your day, or Dwelling in God’s Presence not just some of the time but ALL the time that we can actually say God LIVES IN ME and I live IN Him! Oh how Wonderful! EMMANUEL!!! GOD WITH US! US!!!!
    Oh how I love Jesus!

  12. 😂 LoL!!! That was a comical background! Thank you SO much for this S&D ministry! Bless you Arden for pressing through to see your goal come to reality because of Jesus!

  13. Found:). Thanks anyway 🚀

  14. Thanks guys for sharing your experience.
    By the way what is the name of the song in Instagram video?

  15. Great job guys! Definitely what I needed to hear this New Year 🙂 I’m really thankful for the work that you all put into ministry…it has made a difference in my life..looking forward to more posts, keep up the good work! God bless you all
    …good job making it into the video Asher 😉

  16. Ana Cris Espinosa

    Oh, and I saw him!

  17. Ana Cris Espinosa

    This was so refreshing and helpful! It does motivate me to set my goals and to overcome when negative things come my way. Thank you!!

  18. Favor Pedro

    Amen!!! Thank you so much Addison and Arden for this post. I’ve been seeking God for ideas this new year and I just need to more intentional with the goals that I’ve made for myself. My prayer has been for God to use me in a mighty way in my school and watching you truly blesses and inspires me. God bless you all! Lol and yes I did see Asher!