It’s hard to be alone when we don’t know ourselves.
From early on, we’re taught to identify through association: the cliques in school, the teams we play on, the families we’re in, the churches we attend. If we’re not careful, these associations can become our identity and keep us from discovering who God created us to be.
Let him who cannot be alone beware of community. –Dietrich Bonhoeffer
Don’t get me wrong, God created us for community. He created us for connection. But there are longings in us that no job, boyfriend, or marriage can fulfill.
Take it from someone who was given a spouse who’s pretty much like Jesus. A man who has loved me faithfully, selflessly, and deeply. But I had to learn—many times the hard way—that there are things Addison can’t give me. My wholeness is not found in him or his love for me. My wholeness is found in God.
Your story doesn’t begin when you say “I do.” God’s not waiting on you to find your soul mate. So use the gift of singleness to become whole in Christ. Don’t believe the lies that’ll keep you from going deep in this season of “waiting.”
Grab hold of everything God has for you now.
Trust me, your future Mr. or Mrs. will thank you.