You’re not going to hear me say you can’t find that special someone on Instagram. In fact, my own amazing marriage got its start on social media. (But we will save that story for a future post.)
Here’s the thing though, you can’t use IG as your gateway to marriage without first acknowledging the downfalls of falling in InstaloveTM. That’s probably why the experts tell us to move relationships from the screen into the real world as quickly as possible.
Besides, did you know that everyone on Instagram is a fictional character? At best these characters represent snapshots of real people. At worst, they are filtered fabrications. That’s why you can’t measure the real people in your world against the fictional characters in your feed. There will always be someone who seems better-looking, fitter, tanner, godlier, etc., so don’t let FOMO put your love life on lockdown.
Another thought for you—just because social media is an alternate reality doesn’t mean your words don’t carry weight (sometimes virtual words do more damage than actual words). You are accountable for what you type, so use wisdom when deciding what you do and do not share. Online flirting should not become a hobby to pass the time.
Take a moment to evaluate how much time, energy, and emotion you’re investing in your Instaships or lack thereof. The truth is, InstaloveTM often creates more confusion than clarity, and this confusion leads to very real pain. So follow Paul’s advice and “keep your thoughts continually fixed on all that is AUTHENTIC and REAL, honorable and admirable.”